We need to talk babe…
A conversation about the two-letter word that could save us so much time and energy is well overdue. That two-letter word is No. Slim in size, huge in meaning.
Let’s take a moment of silence for all the time and energy we have sacrificed all those times we said yes and really didn’t want to (LOL). All jokes aside, I truly believe being a “yes” woman causes us so much stress and overwhelm.
And, girl, do I have a secret for you: It’s okay to say no.
I am going to let you in on the powers of the word No and how you can start to implement it into your life. From this point on, you are 100% allowed to give yourself permission to say NO.
The Mix Up
First off, I do want to mention that there is a lot of power in the word yes. Saying yes can pushing your limits, allow you to live a servant-leader type of life, or even build your courage. But, at the same time, No is so underrated. Why? The word No serves YOU, not those around you. It’s difficult to say and, let’s be real, it’s misunderstood all. the. time.
I know for me, and maybe many of you, the word no has always been associated with negativity, so I never used it much. But I recently discovered, that’s a total myth! Being negative is a state of being and saying No is just an action, a word, a decision.
You are not being negative, you are simply taking a moment for yourself. A small moment of No today serves your future self ten fold.
When to Say No!
If any of these statements are true, you should say no.
Fully Embracing No.
Set yourself up for success because life is hard sometimes. If you focus on these six standards it will make the in-the-moment “no” a lot less stressful.
Know what your no is worth.
Sit down and write out what is important to you and some of your goals. Maybe take a week and track the amount of commitments you make for yourself that don’t align or add value to your goals. This will show you the true advantage of saying no.
Always be thankful.
You should always start with appreciation when saying no. “I appreciate the invite, but…” or “Thank you for thinking of me to help you with this project, but…” It should make you feel good that someone chose you! But, sometimes, you aren’t the best option.
Don’t make it personal.
Remember, you are saying no to the question, not the person. It is okay to say no to a friend! It isn’t about them, it’s about you and the situation.
Be ready to explain…more than once.
Some people are very persistent with their request. Guess what babe? It is so okay to be persistent back. Stand your ground!
Having priorities means you might “miss out” sometimes.
At first, you may feel like saying no to a girls night out means you’re missing out on “memories” or a “good time”. But, if you said no to push your needle forward, you aren’t missing out on anything! You are fulfilling your goals and passion. You should be okay with skipping one girls night for YOU and your future self.
Think about you.
You deserve time for yourself. You deserve to put your passions at the forefront of your daily life. Think about you and don’t feel bad about it. #selflove
How to Say No like a #sassygirl
So, how do we actually say “no”?
Saying “no” can be a little harsh and most of the time, pretty difficult. Let’s be real, the word no is much harder to utter out than the word “yes”, or “uhhmm, okay I guess so”.
But, here are some ideas! Let’s practice. Try some of these next time you feel that a no is long overdue:
Try saying no in a softer tone by avoiding the word, but still making the point:
“I can’t take this on right now”
“I don’t have time in my schedule for that right now”
“Thanks for thinking of me but I cannot commit to that right now.”
“As much as I’d like to help you, given my other obligations, I am unable to attend/carry out this project the way it should be.”
Or, try commit to part of something without it all being thrown on you:
“I can’t take on the whole project, but I’d be willing to help with a specific part”
Lastly, you might need to buy yourself some time:
“Let me think about it and get back to you”
Just remember that you saying “no” can give your “yes” so much more meaning! I hope you all found something to relate to in this article. Have an amazing weekend babes. I can’t wait to see you build your confidence with this word. We have our work cut out for us, but I think it’s totally worth it!